Double digits….

Today is a very special birthday.  My middle child and only girl is 10 today.  Three years ago we made the decision to open our homes to a child in need.  We thought that we were doing something big.  Something to change this unknown childs life.   We were this stable family who could give so much.  We have been humbled by this child in ways we never could have imagined.  We weren’t at all aware of what this would mean to our home, our lives and our relationships.

It’s been 3 years since this firestorm entered our lives.  She came in with vacant, sad, troubled eyes and a too easy smile.  She was a frightened troubled girl who didn’t understand relationships, love or family dynamics.  She was unable to make friends and she was bullied almost every day.  She LOVED to be a victim and she spent the majority of her time trying to figure out how to get us to get rid of her.   The road for her has never been easy.  Today I looked at pictures of her when she first came.  Such a tiny little bird.  Smaller than she should have been and painfully skinny.

Today her path is so very different.  She rolls her eyes and sticks out her hip and gets mad at us.  She sings (horribly off key as if she were biologically related to me) at the top of her lungs to Miley Cyrus music played too loud in her room.  She has friends, good solid close friendships with children her own age.  She has a report card filled with A’s and a closet filled with clothes she’s made with her own two hands.  She’s got huge feet and her projected height has gone up 4 inches in 3 years.  She wears a training bra and sneaks lip gloss when she thinks I won’t notice.

She has BEGGED me to be on my blog for THREE years but because of legal issues I’ve never done it.  Now we are almost finished all the paper work and she is anxious for the ‘final’ decree.   So for her birthday I am dedicating my post to her.  She is my daughter in every sense of the world and she has changed me as a mother.   My daughter &  sons’ now have this mother and father they should because of a little wisp of a girl who came into our lives and turned it all upside down.  Happy Birthday Sweetie!

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    • Becca on August 16, 2009 at 5:56 am

    Wow you really are a rare individual. I love this post. Nadia and I have the same birthday 🙂

    • Karen on December 29, 2009 at 7:56 pm

    Such a beautiful girl! And what a wonderful, selfless gift you have given her. I hope one day I can do something similar for a child in need.

    Stopping in from SITS. Hope you had a lovely holiday.

  1. What a beautiful daughter you have! And full of joy that she gets from her family! What an angel. Congrats to you all.

  2. How sweet and a congrats to her for being “featured”!

    • Bethany on January 13, 2010 at 8:38 am

    Love the sneaking lip gloss bit; I remember when I went on a retreat when I was 11 and came home with mascara on. Wow, that was an interesting ride home. Tell that sweet girl happy birthday and kudos to you for taking on the world of adolescent girls. I teach ninth grade; you are going to have a blast. 🙂

    • Fallon on January 13, 2010 at 8:46 am

    If I am ever married I would love to do something like that; provide a good solid home for someone who needs it. Your truly a wonderful person, and your new daughter is very fortunate.

    http://betteroffwithcats.wordpress.com

  3. I love this post – it’s so sweet and wonderful!

    • Megan on January 13, 2010 at 9:33 am

    What a cutie! Congratulations on finalizing her permanent place in your family!

  4. You have me crying over here. What a stunning post and absolutely beautiful daughter. May she continue to bring much happynes and love.

  5. That’s wonderful she has found a good home and is now happy and settled–that is HUGE! Hope she had a very happy birthday and many, many more!

    Congrats on your SITS day!

    • Jess on January 13, 2010 at 1:17 pm

    Wow, what a heartfelt dedication. Brought tears to my eyes.
    Congratulations on your sits day!
    xXx

    • typeamommy on January 13, 2010 at 1:25 pm

    Wow, that’s wonderful that you were able to help a child in need. I’m sure she’s so happy to be a part of your family, you sound like a lovely family.

    • Herself on January 13, 2010 at 1:47 pm

    Beautiful–and just the way God see us all–through eyes of unconditional, persevering, Intentional love.

    • Yaya on January 13, 2010 at 1:56 pm

    That’s AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  6. What a great picture! You have brought her much joy.

  7. She looks so happy! You’ve done well:)
    A big & belated Congrats on the new addition to the family unit! I’ve got two sons and one, very doted upon, daughter. Life is good for her.

    • judy on January 13, 2010 at 2:44 pm

    Thank you for sharing this. She is amazing and so are you and your family.

    • Kristal on January 13, 2010 at 2:57 pm

    What a beautiful story!

  8. How AWESOME is that? I’m adopted myself, although as a baby, and I love hearing stories about parents who open their home up to children who have no where else to go.

    ~Elizabeth
    Confessions From A Working Mom

    • Kerri on January 13, 2010 at 3:09 pm

    {sniff} Beautiful! I must be so PMS’y…I’m like bawling at everyone’s posts today! What a gorgeous child, and what a beautiful story! Thanks for letting us be a part of it.
    Happy SITS day!!!!

  9. This post got me teary-eyed. So special. Children change our lives in ways we never would have imagined. Congratulations to your entire family.

    • Shana on January 13, 2010 at 3:42 pm

    What a beautiful tribute to your daughter!

    shana @ fumblingtowardsnormalcy.wordpress.com

  10. It takes an amazing person to to have what you did for that little girl. Not many other people are truly capable of taking in a child her age and helping her become a better person.

    • Shelley on January 13, 2010 at 4:08 pm

    What a beautiful story!

    • Jeanette on January 13, 2010 at 4:40 pm

    ok, now I have goose bumps. What a beautiful tribute to your daughter, and a beautiful daughter too.

    Stopping by from SITS

    • Michelle on January 13, 2010 at 4:49 pm

    Wow! What a great story. I hope by now the final decree has been ordered and you have been able to celebrate that victory. Adoption has laid heavy on my heart for many years now. I could also see my self adopting from foster care (which is what I am assuming you did) but do hesitate at the challenges it would pose to not only myself and husband but to my other children. This is many years off for us a family but I continue to prayerfully consider what God has laid on my heart.

    I have really enjoyed your blog so far. I am going to start following so I can read more 🙂

    • Michelle on January 13, 2010 at 4:52 pm

    Can I follow you through Google friends connect or add your blog to my Google reader. I only see an option for email subscription on you sidebar?

    • Mel on January 13, 2010 at 4:52 pm

    Wow, this is cool. We hope to adopt some day. She is so beautiful!:) The thought and desire of adopting scares me, yet it’s something I can’t get out of my mind.:)

  11. Love to hear about adoption stories. My hubs was adopted and he had such a blessed life because of it. Thanks for sharing!

  12. Excuse me while I swallow this lump whelped up inside. The tears are hard to hold back. What a lovely post. I’m sure your daughter will treasure it for a long time.

    • Kearsie on January 13, 2010 at 5:17 pm

    How truly amazing. You completely changed that little girl’s life and now she will never be the same. Awesome.

    • joy on January 13, 2010 at 5:40 pm

    Wow, how amazing. God bless all of you. Congrats on your SITS day!

  13. What a great post to share on your SITS day! Hope you enjoy the *entire* day!

    • Apryl on January 13, 2010 at 5:57 pm

    What a heartwarming story – you are truly amazing!

  14. What wonderful story! I’m glad you shared!

  15. I am sure the hard times have made your bond stronger what a way to celebrate.

  16. Lovely!

    • beenomom on January 13, 2010 at 6:25 pm

    Stopping by from SITS! What an amazing family you have. You did such a wonderful thing for a child, and what a way to honor her, by featuring her on your blog!! It is people like you that make a world of difference to the lives of very deserving children. Good for you and God bless!

    • Molly on January 13, 2010 at 6:40 pm

    Love this post and am glad to have found it through SITS. She is a lovely girl and I loved reading this story.

    • zeemaid on January 13, 2010 at 6:55 pm

    beautiful post! great job mom!!!

    Happy SITS day!

  17. that is SO awesome!

  18. That is so wonderful! What a beautiful girl!

    • becca on January 13, 2010 at 7:25 pm

    I loved this post. Your love for your daughter shines through and what a wonderful, special, selfless mommy you are. She is lucky that she was found by you.

    Happy SITS day!

    • gina on January 13, 2010 at 7:34 pm

    Kudos to you- before I was a SAHM I was A WAHM mom- as a counselor to troubled adolescents. In transition between state metal hospitals and halfway homes or foster care or back with family. The path you chose must have been difficult but so rewarding in the long run for ALL of you. Congrats. And happy birthday little lady- so glad you finally had “your day”.

    • Sevi on January 13, 2010 at 7:35 pm

    This post totally had me tearing up! She is gorgeous and YAY for making the blog!!

  19. I’m so glad she’s doing so well! Stopping by from SITS.

    • CCW on January 13, 2010 at 8:05 pm

    First you have me laughing, then I click over here and you’ve got me crying.
    I like this place.

  20. I am beginning to think you are somewhat of a saint as I read through your posts! You must have an amazingly huge heart and nerves of steel as I imagine you had your fair share of bumps in the road while you were raising her. 🙂

  21. What a wondefful thing you did. Let alone taking her in but seeign it through all the tough times when it would be so easy just to back out and send her away. Instead you stuck it out. It just seems all too often people want instant gratification and are unwilling to put in the real effort that it takes in personal relationships.

  22. This brought tears to my eyes. I feel very called to adopt a child in need (not a baby) because I have a passion for children who are abused/neglected. I have heard so many horror stories but yours is simply one of hope. Thank you for sharing – she is beautiful and so are you for taking a risk for the good of a child. Kudos to you!

    • mrsbear on January 13, 2010 at 9:21 pm

    That was beautiful, what a great addition.

  23. Beautifully said and a beautiful addition to your “stable” family too. 🙂

    • Tanya on January 13, 2010 at 10:12 pm

    HOW ADORABLE! Thank you SO much for sharing!

    • K on January 13, 2010 at 10:33 pm

    So glad your family is complete now.

    • Kristin on January 13, 2010 at 10:39 pm

    What a beautiful post….and a beautiful girl! It’s amazing how they change our lives, isn’t it?

    • Sandy on January 13, 2010 at 10:50 pm

    She’s a cutie and you are all very lucky to have found one another.

  24. What a lovely story, and a fabulous thing that you’ve done.

    • wcurley on January 14, 2010 at 12:58 am

    Your daughter looks very happy in that picture. Congratulations to her for her first 15 minutes of fame. Kudos to you for changing her life.

  25. Great post – stopping by from SITS and enjoying your blog! Thanks!

    http://www.Thelittlebrownhouse.us

    • eclipsed on January 14, 2010 at 2:57 am

    Happy SITS day. I’ve always thought there was something special about a child that you choose. She’s beautiful and it seems that she’s helped you just as much as you’ve helped her.

    • Julie on January 14, 2010 at 4:48 am

    You are a very special person! I read your first post of your SITS day post, and thought this chick is good. Now, I know you are good. I can’t wait to read more from you. Hope she had a wonderful birthday!

  26. She is Beautiful. Congrats!!

    • April on January 14, 2010 at 5:19 am

    I cried. 🙂

  27. This is making me all emotional and choked up. What a beautiful girl! Also, big feet are the worst! Takes all the fun out of shoe shopping! Haha! (and cute boots!)

    • The Mom on January 14, 2010 at 6:47 am

    You are an amazing person. What a beautiful post. I’m glad there are people in the world like you! Thanks for the wonderful post. Enjoy your SITS day.

    • Missy on January 14, 2010 at 6:48 am

    How awesome and how blessed your family is to have her in your life. And what a huge heart you have to open your home. I have dreams of someday adopting; we shall see what God has in mind.

    Stopping in from SITS.

  28. What a lovely post! Beautiful mom and beautiful daughter. 🙂

    • Amber on January 15, 2010 at 3:59 pm

    This was a beautiful post. 🙂

    • Jessica on January 17, 2010 at 8:20 am

    It’s so awesome that you were able to open your home to a child who needed it.

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