We Need to Talk….
“We need to talk.”
Nothing strikes fear into a relationship like those four little words. Many a couple has been brought down by that simple statement. I swore up and down that I would rather stay single than be in a relationship where I was unable to communicate open and honestly with my partner. I hadn’t had that before..the middle of the night conversations about the hard topics that can end in hurt feelings and misunderstandings. Those conversations that need to be said but most couple avoid out of fear that they will ‘stir things up’. I wanted those. No, I CRAVED those. I figured that if I wasn’t going to get to be 100% myself then why bother with a relationship at all. I could settle for getting my superficial needs met by dating and not give a toss about having to deal with the day to day bullshit that a relationship entails. So a win/win. But then I met this guy. You know the dude. I heart him so much. I understand why people roll their eyes when I talk about all the amazing things that my Cowboy does for me. He’s a remarkable man who treats me with such respect and love it’s hard to believe he’s real. But he could stop all that today. The flowers, the crazy amounts of food, the treats from the states. He could stop all the superficial spoiling because he does one thing. What? Well last night I had an issue. It’s an issue of communication when he’s on the road. It wasn’t a big deal but I didn’t want to hurt his feelings. I get nervous bringing up things that might upset him. NOT because of him, I realize now but because I have my own baggage. In my other relationships me bringing up an issue would result in a huge blow up. “oh i’m a terrible person” or “I guess I just suck as a mate” or “well I did that because you did this”. Not with Cowboy. He listened quietly and then said “I’m sorry, I didn’t know I was doing that. I’ll try to remember but could you point it out to me next time I do it so I know what you’re talking about?” and then he said “you know I hate hurting your feelings, right?”. And that ladies and gentlemen is why no matter where we end up in this crazy life I will end up next to this crazy Cowboy. Cause no one does understanding and communication like him. And THAT is worth more to me than any flowers or presents he could possibly give me.
Plus when he’s home he lets me take silly pictures of us even when he’s super tired and has been stuck in the truck up north in 28 below zero with no phone.
Luckiest girl on the planet. No lie.